Monday, October 24, 2011
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Dear Confused Graduate,
There must be something in the water, because I've had a TON of girls email me with this question: how do I get over someone? Seeing as this is something I have a bit of experience with myself, I'm going to lay it out for y'all.
There must be something in the water, because I've had a TON of girls email me with this question: how do I get over someone? Seeing as this is something I have a bit of experience with myself, I'm going to lay it out for y'all.
Do you want the good news or bad news first? Bad news? What, you're a glutton for punishment? Okay, buckle up.
You know that annoying cliche about how time heals all wounds? Well, it's true. The biggest thing that will help you get over someone is just the passing of every day. You can eat a lot of ice cream, write bad poetry, listen to sad songs, and grow your bangs so long no one sees your face, but I once read that it takes six months to really start to get over someone. It's definitely been true in my life, every time. Why six? No clue. But it's true.
So you need to get your butt to the six-month mark. I would bet my dog that in six months you won't feel the way you do right now. And I love my dog, people. I love my dog.
The good news: It's not always going to feel as bad as it does right now. For serious. You won't even have to wait six months for that. If you're having a really horrible day, the kind where your skin is burning with how much you miss and want and can't live without this person, keep telling yourself this: it won't always feel like this. It won't always feel like this. And it won't. Promise.
Here's some more good news: you've got a lot of energy right now. You probably don't realize it, because you're channeling it all into obsessing about this person. So take the energy and use it to try something new. Cooking? Running? Glass blowing?
My worst getting-over experience led me to start playing tennis. The sport introduced me to new people, got those exercise endorphins flowing so I felt better, and made me a little happier during a dark time. The next time you want to mope, or make a collage of every picture you have of this person, stop. What else could you be doing right now?
Finally, remember this: right now, it feels like there will never be another person like this one - who will like or love you, who you will like or love back. I get it. I've been there. But I'm old enough to tell you it's not true, and know that I'm right. Yes, even you (no matter how much of a freak you think you are, trust me on this) will find someone else. It's not that different from a friend divorce. After you split with a friend, you almost always make a new one. That's how it goes in romance when you're young.
So hang in there by getting out there and doing something. This will end, and you will be okay.
You know that annoying cliche about how time heals all wounds? Well, it's true. The biggest thing that will help you get over someone is just the passing of every day. You can eat a lot of ice cream, write bad poetry, listen to sad songs, and grow your bangs so long no one sees your face, but I once read that it takes six months to really start to get over someone. It's definitely been true in my life, every time. Why six? No clue. But it's true.
So you need to get your butt to the six-month mark. I would bet my dog that in six months you won't feel the way you do right now. And I love my dog, people. I love my dog.
The good news: It's not always going to feel as bad as it does right now. For serious. You won't even have to wait six months for that. If you're having a really horrible day, the kind where your skin is burning with how much you miss and want and can't live without this person, keep telling yourself this: it won't always feel like this. It won't always feel like this. And it won't. Promise.
Here's some more good news: you've got a lot of energy right now. You probably don't realize it, because you're channeling it all into obsessing about this person. So take the energy and use it to try something new. Cooking? Running? Glass blowing?
My worst getting-over experience led me to start playing tennis. The sport introduced me to new people, got those exercise endorphins flowing so I felt better, and made me a little happier during a dark time. The next time you want to mope, or make a collage of every picture you have of this person, stop. What else could you be doing right now?
Finally, remember this: right now, it feels like there will never be another person like this one - who will like or love you, who you will like or love back. I get it. I've been there. But I'm old enough to tell you it's not true, and know that I'm right. Yes, even you (no matter how much of a freak you think you are, trust me on this) will find someone else. It's not that different from a friend divorce. After you split with a friend, you almost always make a new one. That's how it goes in romance when you're young.
So hang in there by getting out there and doing something. This will end, and you will be okay.
Saturday, June 18, 2011
Philophobic
Philophobia- "fear for falling in love or being in love" The risk is more acute, when you have confronted any emotional turmoil relating to love in the past.
Defining The Problem
Philophobia is defined as the abnormal, persistent and unwarranted fear of falling in love.
Every year, the phobia causes countless people needless distress and so many abstain from getting emotionally involved.
A restless feeling of being betrayed in love pricks you and unrests your mind. You do not feel emotionally secured in life. This eventually affects the quality of life and pushes you away from any sort of commitment.
It also triggers various symptoms in you that may incorporate sweating, irregular heartbeat, shortness of breath, feelings of dread, nausea and feeling of restlessness.
The worst thing about fear of being in love and falling in love is that it keeps you apart from your loved ones and drives you to a painful solitude.
You feel alone but every time a situation arises for commitment, you get panic attacks.
The symptoms are very irregular and vary from person to person. These include sweating, nausea, rapid breathing, shortness of breath, feelings of dread and extreme fear of not being able to live up to promises.
Reasons Giving Rise To The Problem
Bitter experiences of the past maybe a crucial reason why you do not want to get tangled into a relationship again.
You may fear rejection and that pose as a great reason of embarrassment that deters you from even getting involved with anyone.
Defining The Problem
Philophobia is defined as the abnormal, persistent and unwarranted fear of falling in love.
Every year, the phobia causes countless people needless distress and so many abstain from getting emotionally involved.
A restless feeling of being betrayed in love pricks you and unrests your mind. You do not feel emotionally secured in life. This eventually affects the quality of life and pushes you away from any sort of commitment.
It also triggers various symptoms in you that may incorporate sweating, irregular heartbeat, shortness of breath, feelings of dread, nausea and feeling of restlessness.
The worst thing about fear of being in love and falling in love is that it keeps you apart from your loved ones and drives you to a painful solitude.
You feel alone but every time a situation arises for commitment, you get panic attacks.
The symptoms are very irregular and vary from person to person. These include sweating, nausea, rapid breathing, shortness of breath, feelings of dread and extreme fear of not being able to live up to promises.
Reasons Giving Rise To The Problem
Bitter experiences of the past maybe a crucial reason why you do not want to get tangled into a relationship again.
You may fear rejection and that pose as a great reason of embarrassment that deters you from even getting involved with anyone.
Friday, June 3, 2011
Thursday, April 28, 2011
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vHskWBo1FQw&feature=related
'hardly breath' underline.
When you're dreaming with a broken heart ,Then waking up is the hardest part
You roll outta bed and down on your knees,And for a moment you can hardly breathe..Wondering was he really here?
Is he standing in my room?
No he's not, 'cause he's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....
When you're dreaming with a broken heart, The giving up is the hardest part,he takes you in with his crying eyes
Then all at once you have to say goodbye..Wondering could you stay my love?
Will you wake up by my side? ... No he can't, 'cause he's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....
Now do i have to fall asleep with roses in my hands
You roll outta bed and down on your knees,And for a moment you can hardly breathe..Wondering was he really here?
Is he standing in my room?
No he's not, 'cause he's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....
When you're dreaming with a broken heart, The giving up is the hardest part,he takes you in with his crying eyes
Then all at once you have to say goodbye..Wondering could you stay my love?
Will you wake up by my side? ... No he can't, 'cause he's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....
Now do i have to fall asleep with roses in my hands
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